Conceited, Honest, Good. Where Are We Today
I’m fierce and I’m fearless and honest and straight. I have a lot of great qualities and I am going to talk about acceptance of these qualities we all have. I am not sure when or who told and taught us it is not good to speak highly of ourselves, but somewhere along the ages and times we have grown to this place with the thought that it is wrong to sing our own praises. As a matter of fact; there was a time that if we dared sing our own praises, well, then we were labeled ‘conceited’. I am challenging this based on the fact that I want to sing my praises and yours, as well. I want all women and men to feel that each of you is great and deserve every positive thing that can happen to you. I want all of us to feel worthy of greatness. Now, having said that; I also believe greatness is a personal and inside job. Greatness to me may very well mean something different than your idea of greatness. Greatness gets to be the feeling when you are very okay with your life today.
For me, greatness is that I am a recovering addict with the ability to make conscious choices today for me. It means that I get to attempt to do at least one thing throughout the day that is just for my pleasure. That can be anything from writing for my blog to tinkering on my keyboard to just vegetating in front of the TV and catching up on my recorded shows. To be able to have time to do anything personally for me is a greatness. Continuing to write this blog is absolutely amazing to me. I get to feel great about it in so many ways. This has been going on for a bit of time now and it amazes me that I still have so much to write about. So, either my life has been that interesting or it has been full of a lot of stuff, or it has been a lot busier than I thought, or a combination of all. Whatever the reason or cause; I am grateful.
So, just to bring you up to snuff; I am letting you know that off on another tangent I went for a short moment (hours). I have finally deleted it as I read it and thought to myself; people are going to raise their eyebrows at this for sure. Not that I care I about your eyebrows at all; but I do find it kind of creepy when you can do the one eyebrow raise and the other one stays put. But that’s just me I guess. Well, time is money and we should get back to me earning my keep with your time.
I really have a hard job comprehending that so many of us still live with the backward beliefs of such things as wife at home pregnant, women do not have rights or equal rights, children should be seen but not heard, rape means the woman got what she asked for, and no isn’t really a word. I could go on and on and on and on with more sayings and slanders and wrongs and clichés; however, I am going to choose to focus on the right and great and true and powerful today. It is always right to stop and speak up to someone who is abusing you (with the proper safeties intact, whatever that looks like). It is great to have a voice to say no and a period after it. If you cannot because it is unsafe for you to do so, then find an organization that can help you do that, please. It is very true that in this day and age we can all protect each other instead of standing alone. It is the most powerful of times when equality is for everyone in our world. These statements are what we should be striving for each and every day, each and every one of us. What the world needs now is love, sweet love. It also needs strength and understanding and heart and soul. I see too many people today without souls. They do not feel they can trust their souls in this age of fears and pains and wrongs and death.
I look at some out there in the news and grieving their loved one’s loss as some reporter has a microphone pointed and in their face, and all I can think is good God let them grieve for a moment; just give them a moment. When did the story get so much more important than the person? There are so many catastrophic things happening in our world today and I agree that we have the right to know about it all; but for the people standing at these moments that have just lost so much, well, can the interview not just wait until they have a chance to get through the shell shock first? Can we not serve humanity in the best and most respectful of ways? We can do that. We can start to say no, back up and let me breathe first. We can stand on the sidelines and see someone who is trying to figure out what has just happened and they have lost people to whatever happened and then see reporters with cameras and microphones shoved in their face and we can be that person who walks up to the reporter and says STOP. Let the person breathe, just let the person breathe. Can we be the shield for these people till they can absorb and breathe? Can we all be the human on the sideline who stops the cameras and stands in front of the person and protects them, like they were our own, because they are?
I know we all watch the devastations of both manmade and natural disasters that happen in our world every day. Has the moment come to take care of the people and show respect for the people, instead of leaving them to the mercy of stories.
I can do that today. I can be the person who watches out for you instead of the story. I can be the person who would shield you in the aftermath. I can be the person who instead of looking at you and know something is wrong; well I can ask you if you want a hug or need to talk. I want to be the person who is not so wrapped up in me, that I cannot see you are in pain. I will be the person who is now there for you and notice you and not look at the story instead of you. I am the person who is not better or worse than you. I am the person who is stronger than some and yet weaker than others. I am the person who uses my strength for the protection of those that need it and the lifting of those that need help. I am also the person who will fight for all freedoms, not just one or two.
I want to be the change I am asking you. For me, that means that when I am in a crowded room or store or bus stop or bank or wherever I am, and I see a look on your face or an action in your body that speaks of something not quite right or very wrong; well I am going to offer to help you. You may turn me down in the today we live in, but I am going to continue to ask until someone says yes. And then I will continue on again. I will be the change I want to see.
Our world, our pledge, our life; we will ask and offer, and then ask and offer more.
I like it, I like it a lot. As I put this to bed for Sunday; I am reading the above sentence and I want to give you this thought to mull around in your head. Have you ever had one of those days when it was all overwhelming and painful and you wondered how you could even move one foot in front of the other as you don’t know how much more can be thrown at you? If you got on the bus and sat beside me and I leaned over and quietly said Hi, are you okay? Can I help you, please? You may back away from me, you may move to another seat, you may shake your head no to me, or you may just like my voice and the way I asked and you may just let me help by at least listening. That may just be what you needed to get through that moment and a better way to end your day. Food for thought, anyway!
Please enjoy the read and week. You are welcome to like, share, comment or whatever moves you. You are also welcome to start living in the change you want the world to be. And last, but never least; you are welcome to reach out to those of us who are stronger to become stronger yourself, and I will do the same with those that are stronger than me.
Enjoy the week. Let it be whatever you need it to be to get through whatever you have to get through. Our world, our pledge, our life; we will ask and offer, and then ask and offer more. Feel free to like, follow, share and comment. I love to hear them all.